What would you do if you have 24 hours to live?

In the book "Tuesday with Morrie" by Mitch Albom, Morrie was asked what if he has one day perfectly healthy?. Morrie is dying from an incurable disease. Morrie thought about a little and answered.

"Let's see... I'd get up in the morning, do my exercises, have lovely breakfast of sweet rolls and tea, go for a swim, then have my friends come over for a nice lunch. I'd have them come one or two at a time so we could talked about their families, their issues, talked about how much we mean to each other.

"Then I'd like to go for a walk, in the garden with some trees, watch their colors, watch the birds, take in the nature that I'd not seen in so long now.

"In the evening, we'd all go for dinner in some restaurant, with some great pasta, maybe with some duck - I loved duck and we dance for the rest of the night. I'll dance with all the wonderful partners out there, until I was exhausted. And then I'll go home and have a deep wonderful sleep.

"That simple, that average?" Mitch thought and he realized that Morrie could find perfection in such an average day.

So what will I do if I have only 24 hours left to live?
24 hours, such a short time?
What else have I long to do before my life end?
Something like I never done before? Get to the moon and back?
Go on spending spree and make my day happy?
Sigh... Probably not.

What will I do to make my life really feel complete?
Probably much the same way as what Morrie did.
He summarizes his life, the things he love to do, the experiences that has a major impact in his life - His family, his sports, his favorite food, his walk... that simple.
And amazingly, that is just everything he'd done before in his whole life.

That's 24 hours. What if I got 48 hours instead?
Will I still get to the moon? Probably still not.
I will have an extended version of the things I do in my 24 hours.
What if I got 1 week instead? Hmmm... a tougher question.
Maybe, I will need to start planning but I believed at the end, I will probably do the same thing that I did in my 24.

What if, what if I got a year instead, maybe longer 5 years, 10 years, 30 years?

Hmmm... get a job? Most people, and me myself will do just that

However, what happened to the things you will want to do if you got 24 hours to live?
Most people would have probably forgotten about it.
If the time to live increases, those important things in that short 24 hours that matters to you get postponed and postponed further and further away.
Still I can hear people, even myself saying I simply couldn't find the time.

Life is short and things can get unexpected.
So keep that 24 hours in mind.
Insert it into your weekly itinerary or aleast your monthly itinerary.
So that when things unexpected happened to you, at least you can leave feeling the 24 hours happens just yesterday.

"When you learn how to die, you learn how to live."- Morrie
When you learn what you will do in your last 24 hours, you will learn how to live your life. That is what I think Morrie is telling me.

Happy New Year!!!

The Universe

From "Secrets" by Rhoda Byrne, I was taught of this word "The Universe" which connects everyone and everything together. Whatever you want, whatever you wished for, you can just ask the Universe and somehow along your time, you will received. In Soka, they too believed in this when they chant 'Nam Myoho Range Kyo' which somewhat I perceived that the chanting is the way to connect to the Universe.

So here's my pictorial view of the whole concept. Professor Charles Francis Xavier. He is the Professor in X-men who can connect his mind to the Universe and control every single X-men that the Universe found. The Universe knows everything. Picture the Universe as a huge computer database system. Picture that every night when you go to sleep, the time when you knock yourself out, your soul will travel all the way to this database, upload and update all the experience for the day to the Universe. What you see, what you hear, what you feel etc will be uploaded to this database. And at the same time, what you want to know gets download back to your soul and be brought back to your body via dreams or through a sudden flow of knowledge. Or if you want to search a question from this database without the need to knock yourself out, one has to be calm enough in the mind and let the soul telepath itself to the Universe and retrieved the answer from the database. To reach to that state of mind is not easy but it is possible. Buddha can see who he was in his past lives when he reached to that stage of mind. Neale, in Conversations with God, is able to know where the mom of the dead son is when he wants an answer for the traumatized woman who lost her adopted son. Hence, there are no such thing as impossibility. Knowing everything is possible only if one can access everything in that database.

The Truth is in this database. Hence, the term only God knows came from one's God reaching into this database to retrieve the answer. However, whether the Truth will be revealed by the God receiving it is another question. Simply because everything is connected. The Cause and The Effect.

Ask and You'll Received

In the concluding part of "Conversations with God", a woman came to Neale when he was in the bookstore speaking to his reader. She was traumatized by the changes in her son and she asked for the author's explanation. Her son was adopted and by 14, she told him that. Her son changes immediately from a loving son to someone who does not want to acknowledge her as his mother. So she promised her adopted son that when he turns 18, she will bring him to meet his real mother. When he turns 18, he was killed by a drunk driver. She asked the author what has the author's God got to say about this? The author paused, close his eyes, drop a tear and walk towards the woman and say, "Your son died so that you can keep your promise to. His mother died a few years ago. His passing was the only way to be with her."

My view is that the son wants to be with his real mother. He has ask his God (the son's God) and God granted his wish. Having said that, I was wondering since heaven is a virtual place, how can he be with his mom after his passing. However, if I recollect that his Soul will be moved into another body, the body that give birth to his new body could be the soul that once occupied his mom's body or his new body could be near a body which his mom's soul now occupies i.e. his new sister, brother, father etc.

It is just unfortunate that he got no idea where her mom is else he may have changed his mind, accept that and move on without having that thought drawn so forcefully into himself.

What about the promise that the foster mom made? Is it also that strong that she wants her adopted son to meet his real mom? Most likely that with both foster mom and adopted son strong asking, both Gods gave what she and he wants. She kept her promise and he believed her. Again it is unfortunate that she did not go and find out where the real mom is.

One may argue that what if she did not want her adopted son to meet his real mom? Yes, only God will know i.e. her God will know. However, among the two, there is someone who will have the stronger will and the stronger one will succeed in getting the wish.

What if his mom is alive and not dead? That will definitely defunct my view.

Anyway, when you so wanted something, check out where the something is before you wish really hard on it.

Finally, the closing words from God: -
"I will not leave you, I cannot leave you, for you are My creation and My product, My daughter and My son, My purpose and My... Self. Call on Me, therefore, wherever and whenever you are separate from the peace that I am. I will be there. With Truth. And Light. And Love."

Your Soul will not leave you. Your soul create your existence. If you are not finding peace in yourself, you can always reached out to your soul who will always be with you whenever you want him or her. Your soul will always guide you to what you want if you believed in it.
Every word from God is express from Self - Who Am I. God is One.

Conversations With God

Stumbled upon this DVD at library@esplanade.
The story told about Neale, the author whose world crumbles, leaving him no job, no home and a broken neck. He climbs back with the help of his God who had conversations with him during his distress stage. He took down what God told him and it became a best seller.

There are few quotes that is worth a thought and I found a good lot in this link
http://www.iloveulove.com/spirituality/cwg/cwgquotes.htm

I was asking who is his God. My view is his God is his God.
His God will always be there for him even if he gave up his God.
Likewise, my God is my Soul and will always be there to listen and give me advice when I calmly reached out for HIM.
Hence, His God is his Soul and all the while, he is speaking to his Soul.
At a very distress stage in life, he may have reached a certain kind of calmness where God cames in and talked to him.
So if you give up in your God, you are actually giving up in yourself.
Everyone has a God and this God will always support one, no matter how one treats God.

Because God is One.

Quality of Husband

The quality of husband is directly proportion to the amount he brings into the family. The amount of love.


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Your Eyes are Not Listening

I have 2 little daughters and when I heard this from Mitch, it gave me something to smile at.

From a Sermon by the Reb, 1958

“A little girl came home from school with a drawing she‟d made in class.
She danced into the kitchen, where her mother was preparing dinner.
“„Mom, guess what?‟ she squealed, waving the drawing.
“Her mother never looked up.
“„What? she said, tending to the pots.
“„Guess what?‟ the child repeated, waving the drawing.
“„What?‟ the mother said, tending to the plates.
“„Mom, you‟re not listening.‟
“„Sweetie, yes I am.‟
“„Mom,‟ the child said, „you‟re not listening with your eyes.‟”

I let my wife listened to the above and she brought back the book that I once read and recommended to her 5 to 6 years ago - The 5 Love Language by Gary Chapman.
The 5 Language of Love (http://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn-the-languages/the-five-love-languages/) are as follows :-

• Words of Affirmation

  Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

• Quality Time

  In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

• Receiving Gifts

  Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

• Acts of Service

  Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

• Physical Touch

  This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

She asked me which is the predominant language of my eldest daughter. I contemplated between Quality Time and Words of Affirmation and ended up choosing the later. She told me that it was Quality Time. How? She actually asked her, my 4 year old.

Mum: Do you love me?
Daughter: I loved you mummy.
Mum: Why do you love me?
Daughter: I just love you.
Mum: But you must have a reason why you love me.
Daughter: Ahhhh.... because you spend time watching movie with me. You read bedtime story book with me.

Just as simple as that.

Detachment

This is a great story that teaches detachment.

There is a story of a farmer whose horse ran away. That evening the neighbors gathered to commiserate with him since this was such bad luck. He said, "May be."

The next day the horse returned, but brought with it six wild horses, and the neighbors came exclaiming at his good fortune. He said, "May be."

And then, the following day, his son tried to saddle and ride one of the wild horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. Again the neighbors came to offer their sympathy for the misfortune. He said, "May be."

The day after that, conscription officers came to the village to seize young men for the army, but because of the broken leg the farmer's son was rejected. When the neighbors came to say how fortunately everything had turned out, he said, "May be."

Like what Mitch says, such a simple story that is so attached can be so detached.
It teaches me to let go and not to attach to any physical things or emotions. For every gain, there will be some loss and for every loss, there will be some gain.

From the book 'Have a Little Faith' by Mitch Albom, a chapter talks about Adam who lived 930 years instead of a full 1000. The story claims that he agreed with His Creator to shorten his life in order to give life to another. This story was outlined by the rabbi to explain his acceptance to the death of his 4 year old born daughter. He ended saying that "Is it not better to have known my daughter for four years, than not to have known her at all?" In other words, for every loss, there will be some gain. My view is that his 4 year old has enriched his life in her 4 years and has now move on to enrich other lives.

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